setting healthy Christian boundaries
***Before you begin, I urge you to ask for the Holy Spirit’s guidance as you read this. I hope that He unveils, teaches, or encourages you (or all three) to draw close to God in Jesus Christ.
When you think of Setting Healthy Christian Boundaries, what do you think of?
Feels like you are going to be put in a box?
If I ever heard of the Word boundaries for a Christian, I would not have liked that. It would have made me want to defend myself and basically wanting me to do things my own way.
I might even say that, “God does not say that!”
Before we get into the boundaries part, here is a verse that I would like for you to read:
In 1 Corinthians 10:23, NIV states, “I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”—but not everything is constructive.”
What does this entail? As Christians, because we are set free from the enslavement of sin and receive no condemnation (Romans 8:1), we can do about anything, right?
Yes and no.
I don’t want to get into great details with this, but If you want more information, I wrote an Ebook that you can download for FREE if you want to check it out. It is about setting biblical boundaries. It goes into details about how they are not just beneficial but are helpful to draw us close to doing the will of God in Jesus Christ.
Yes, we have the right to do anything because we make it OUR choice to do it. You have the right to eat, drink, and be merry. But there is a way that appears to be right, but in the end it leads to death (Proverbs 14:12 NIV).
Though you may have the choice to do anything, YOUR choice may not be the right choice. When you consider your choice, you are considering yourself. When you are considering yourself, you are considering your desire, not the desire of God. For God’s desire are not our desire.
Neither HIS ways and thoughts are ours (Isaiah 55:8).
Do you not remember that we were bought at a [hefty] price? Jesus Christ did not come on this earth to die for our sins in vain, but because of the will of GOD. Whose love for the world is indescribable.
So when you are trying to consider your choice, think of Jesus Christ, who did not consider HIS choice. Not one ounce. He obeyed and did the will of GOD. He lived a life that was by loving God first and then loving people.
So this is to say that though you may have the choice to do anything as a Christian, are your choices revolving around the will of God? Are they drawing you closer to God or far away? Are they leading you to temptation? Do they lead you to yourself?
Now that we have gotten that out of the way, let’s get right into the post.
This post will provide some biblical and healthy boundaries to help us draw closer to be like Jesus Christ. These are NOT the only boundaries we need to set up because we’re all different people, based on our personality, attitude, beliefs, values, behavior, etc. God changes our hearts and renews our minds in each of us differently based on where we are.
Let’s get started.
This post is about setting healthy Christian boundaries
Devote All Your Time To God
Do you devote your time to God? Devoting your time with God will be different for everyone, as long as you constantly communicate and spend time with HIM.
There is a time when you will need to sit, pray, and be still, knowing that He is God (Psalm 46:10).
But are you allowing HIM in your day-to-day life? Including Him in your daily life can be by talking to Him about what you are thinking about, your good days, your bad days, your innermost thoughts that none one knows about, and even about His words.
Singing to Him a new song is also a form of devotion.
Are you in constant prayer (1 Thessalonians 5:17)? Do you get the time to give thanks to Him in the morning, afternoon, and evening through praise and worship? Have you repented (1 John 1:9)?
Devoting ALL your time with God is a relationship. Yes, God knows everything about you. But He still wants to KNOW YOU via communicating with Him so that He can communicate with you.
Hebrews 12:22, NIV, says, “let us draw near to God with a sincere heart and with the full assurance that faith brings, having our hearts sprinkled to cleanse us from a guilty conscience and having our bodies washed with pure water.”
Think Before You Speak (Proverbs 18:21)
The power of the tongue.
James 3: 1-12 talks about the taming of the tongue. We should be careful how we use our tongues. Are you using your tongue to promote hatred and slander, or grace and mercy?
Are you using it to gossip or talking about someone else?
I have used my tongue many times to say hated things to those close to me and those I did not know. As James in the bible said, that should not be. We should speak truth, love, and good things that uplift people and ourselves.
Have you talked about yourself lately in the wrong way? Like saying you are dumb, ugly, not really pretty, or even using that you “will never amount to …”?
Put your tongue to good use and pray to God for Him to change how you speak about others and yourself. Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal to you words you use that may bring you or others down. If Jesus Christ died on the cross because of God’s great love for everyone, who are you to talk negatively about anyone, even yourself?
Ponder On What You Accept In Your Life
What are some things you accept in your life?
It could be anything. From what you drink, eat, watch, speak, hang with, and the likes.
Whatever you accept in life will be revealed in your character, attitude, action, etc. Just observe your surroundings and yourself.
And…I will leave you with some verses to help you consider what you accept in life [all retrieved from biblegateway.com]:
- Proverbs 25:28 NIV, “Like a city whose walls are broken through is a person who lacks self-control.”
- 1 Corinthians 15:3 NIV, “Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.”
- Ephesians 5:3 NIV, “But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people.”
- Ephesians 4:26 NIV, “In your anger do not sin” [from Psalm 4:4]: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,”
- Hosea 7:14 NIV, (this may be harsh, but it identifies that God’s people, instead of crying out to HIM with their hearts, consulted with other things that were not of Him. They sought peace or instruction via other vices that were not God.) “They do not cry out to me from their hearts but wail on their beds. They slash themselves, appealing to their gods for grain and new wine, but they turn away from me.”
Setting Healthy Biblical Boundaries: Do Not Worry (Matthew 6:34)
It is a normal reaction to worry. We are humans, and that is OK. We do not know our future. We’re so anxious about tomorrow, such as a job interview or the uncertainty of our life. It could even be the uncertainty of our God-calling business or what our purpose is in God.
Worrying could lead to all sorts of distractions, but mostly it leads you away from seeking the face of God and guarding your hearts and minds in Jesus Christ. Did Jesus Christ NOT overcome the world (John 6:33)?
The bible says we are told not to worry about our life, but if we’re ever anxious about anything, we lay it ALL down before the Father. In return, He gives a peace that surpasses all understanding, which guards our hearts and minds in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:6-7).
The bible also tells us that God will meet our needs according to the riches of His glory in Jesus Christ (Philippians 4:19). These needs could be from His Word and other resources around that He will lead us when we need anything.
So if you find yourself worrying, remember to abide in Jesus Christ, and He will abide in you. He will show the way to go through the power of the Holy Spirit (John 15:4).
John 14:1, NIV says, “Do not let your hearts be troubled. You believe in God; believe also in me.”
There you go! I hope this post encouraged and blessed you.
Until Next Time.